This is my very first blog post ever! I thought I’d start by telling y’all a little bit about me.
I’ve been married to my husband, Adam, for 11 years and we have 2 children together. We live in the American south and yes, we say y’all, like a lot. I’m a coffee-a-holic. I spend way too much time reading. I’m a Christian, but not a fan of religion. I refused to put the word “obey” in my wedding vows. Two months after our wedding, I actually began to develop a relationship with God and that scary little 4 letter word haunted me. Obey and submit made me think of a weak, incapable woman ruled by a tyrant of a husband, and yet I couldn’t get it off my mind. As my relationship with Christ grew, so did my understanding of those words. I even came to regret striking “obey” from my vows. My husband has to account for every sinful thing I do. Of course I should obey him! In our years together, I have made more than my share of mistakes. Adam has never once left me alone to clean up my messes. He has only ever asked the most reasonable of things from me.
- Be honest. There is no truth that has ever pushed him away from me. Lies can destroy us, though.
- Respect him and our marriage. We find plenty to disagree about, but being hateful, vulgar, and insulting him (especially in front of other people) are so incredibly disrespectful things to do. There is nothing I can’t tell him if I do it in a respectful way. In fact, about 95% of the time, I can convince him to do things my way when I simply share my opinions in a kinder, softer manner.
- Keep my promises. If Adam says he’ll do something, you can bet it’ll get done! He is one of the most honorable people I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. He trusts me to do what I say and say what I mean. This sort of falls into the whole “obey” category. He never barks orders at me, but if he asks me to do something (or NOT do) and I’ve agreed to or just kept silent on it rather than explain why I can’t/won’t do it, that’s how we define being disobedient.
I’ve read about all of the “D’s” in relationships like ours. They stand for Disrespect, Disobedience, Dishonesty, and I believe Dangerous? I suppose we have adopted those same values, or “rules” (that’s another touchy 4 letter word I’m working on).
So, I think I’ve laid out who I am and what I’m about. If there’s anything I’ve left out, feel free to just ask! In my next post, I’ll share another first time with y’all 😉